Can you really forgive them? ChEating, lying & betrayal
By Isabella Phillips
Forgiveness is a tricky subject for everyone. Some people are willing to forgive a lot more easily then others. While most of us can forgive the better question is whether you can forgive and then move on…
You say you can let it go but are you really letting it go or are you going to use what your partner did against them to get what you want for the rest of their lives…
If that’s the case then it’s not truly forgiveness now is it?
Now I’m sure you are reading this saying to your selfs “ well I got him or her back and told her or him I can work past it and in exchange he or she should take my shit!”
For example: do you have a friend who is hosting a dinner party, your significant other happens to hate this sad friend. Do you want to go with them to this dinner party but they refuse. In order to get your way you then throw your partners infidelity or betrayal in their face, which then promotes guilt and persuade them to give you your way.
Now I’m off for a little persuasion here or there, I am guilty of using these particular tricks myself within my own relationship however when using a huge mistake against the person you love to get your way over something so insignificant you can later cause a huge amount of resentment and a bigger problem than what you originally started with. It’s almost a form of emotional abuse.
now I’m all for a little persuasion here or there, I am guilty of using these particular tricks myself within my own relationship however when using a huge mistake against the person you love to get your way over something so insignificant you can later cause a huge amount of resentment and a bigger problem than what you originally started with. It’s almost a form of emotional abuse.
now now I know what you’re going to say, “ well they emotionally abused me when they betrayed me and my trust” and you are right but there’s a difference between mistakenly doing this and purposely doing it.
If this is the way you think then you shouldn’t even bother staying in the relationship because chances are, you will eventually make your other half resent you or worst hate being with you but also making them feel obligated to be with you.
Imagine you made a mistake, but then you own up to it and the person you hurt, decides to forgive you. But then as you continue on with the relationship you find that this person treats you like dirt and that by coming clean all you got in return is a whole Lotta grief, guilt and a shit ton of regret and resentment towards the person you love.
Listen we all make mistakes, but we do learn from them and if the person you love has hurt you give them the chance to prove that it was just a one time thing. No matter if it’s cheating lying or going behind your back and doing something that you both discussed was not worth doing. If you’re going to forgive them then open your heart and decide to let the past, be the past.
The difference between forgiving someone once and letting it go, And constantly having to ask yourself if you can forgive over and over again is very different. If you’re finding yourself in a relationship where the person you love is constantly doing something to betray your trust that I think it’s time for you to reevaluate your relationship. It might be time to open your eyes and start See the relationship for what it truly is, Broken. Now often times something that is broken or even shattered is very hard to fix. But if you’re continuously forgiving someone that honestly doesn’t deserve it or hasn’t learned from their mistakes then you need to ask your self is this really love? Does this person really care for me?
Now you might have that answer already but if you don’t feel free to call me (424)302-8035
The meditation analysis that I offer can really help decipher through all these questions and get us down to the answer of whether or not you are in the right relationship and if this person is worth The rest of your life!
