How to Lose a Guy or Girl In 10 Ways

You might not be Kate Hudson...although I have advised many celebrities in the past. Even if you're not a Kate, you may have unwittingly employed some of her techniques when it comes to losing a guy. And, fellas, admit it, you're in the same boat, right? Well, not to worry. Let's have a little primer on how to avoid some of the main relationship pitfalls, shall we? The following are in no particular order, but consider each carefully and assess yourself honestly.

Here you’ll learn How you’ll lose a guy or girl in 10 days or ways….

1. "I want you...so much that I'm not willing to share." Not exactly the best signal to send to someone you truly want to hang on to. Sure, it's nice to be wanted, but not to the extent that you feel smothered. People want to feel highly desired without losing their sense of freedom. This doesn't have to be as delicate of a balancing act as it might sound, though. Make your guy or gal feel loved but not possessed. When in doubt, err on the side of tolerating freedom. Remember: "You won't see a ring if there's too much cling."

2. "Are you implying that I eat too much?" Just because your partner comments on your hearty appetite doesn't mean it's a subtle hint that you should lose weight. Likewise, you shouldn't construe that your cooking is underappreciated if he or she arrives 10 minutes late for dinner. Don't read too much into innocuous comments and actions. They're usually just that--innocuous. Key idea: To keep the relationship intact, don't overreact!

3. "But these sweatpants are so comfy, and the holes in my flannel shirt are barely noticeable." There's nothing wrong with being yourself and dressing comfortably. But make that special someone feel special by dressing up once in a while, especially on your date night. It signals that you're proud to be with this person and willing to invest a little effort into not only looking presentable in public but in making yourself attractive. Looking your best makes you more desirable in two ways--by being more physically attractive and, less obviously, by sending the message that you want you partner to desire you. Thus take note: "A bit of glamour and fashion can sustain the passion."

4. "No, I'm absolutely not being argumentative!" We all know people who seem to thrive on quibbling, fault-finding, and bickering. Less apparent is when we ourselves are in "fight-mode." An exhausting day, work stress, a traffic jam, or even something as simple as a spilled up of coffee can prime us to be argumentative, and the easiest target is the one we love most. This counterproductive way of venting our ire only exacerbates the problem, as it is our partner who is best positioned to help alleviate the underlying stress--but not when he or she feels picked on, attacked, or nagged. Avoid being critical. The next time you find yourself "itching for a fight," don't scratch that itch with you partner; opt instead for a loving embrace and strengthen your relationship in the process. Consider this: If there's a future in sight, it's best not to fight.

5. "Sure, honey, whatever you say." Number 4 notwithstanding, no one wants to be with a pushover. People who don't stand up for themselves, or do so only timidly, might seem easy to get along with, but resentment tends to build up. Also, a lack of assertiveness can make your partner feel ill at ease, not knowing whether you're content with the relationship, or, fearing that if you're not content, he or she wouldn't know how to remedy it. Plus, lively conversation and spicy romance are enhanced by a little feistiness on occasion. In general: Be generous and kind, but do speak your mind.

6. "Well, I wouldn't come across as bossy if you simply did things my way." Relationships involve give and take. While obviously true, this important tenet is easily overlooked when we interact with a loved one. We tend to vie for power in a relationship, often unconsciously, and this leads to friction. Before you insist on something, ask yourself, Is this really a big deal? Big enough to complain about? If not, keep mum. If it really is a big deal, mention it without coming across as overbearing. Don't let a request come across as an order. Your partner will respect this approach. Being bossy and demanding leads to a relationship dead end. We can sum it up this way: It will be much to your chagrin if you never give in.

7. "The weather is horrible, my boss is a jerk, and the kitchen is a disaster." All these things may be true. However, dwelling on these conditions and reiterating them to your partner does little toward changing them. If it's something you cannot change (like the weather), why complain about it in the first place? If change is possible, be proactive rather than brooding over how bad things are. Doing the latter simply detracts from the quality time you have available to spend with the special person in your life. Negativity breeds more of itself. Fortunately, positivity is just as contagious. It will go a long way toward making a relationship last. Keep this in mind: "If you continually assume the worst, your relationship will be cursed."

8. "I know it's just a happy hour get-together after work, but that coworker who has a crush on you will probably show up." Jealousy sometimes goes hand-in-hand with the clinginess I discussed above, but it is more insidious. Jealousy can be devastating for a relationship. Unfortunately, it is easier to spot it than it is to curb it. Once again, there is a delicate balance to achieve. While your partner would feel hurt if you didn't react at all when a potential rival vies for his or her attention, you mustn't go overboard. Overt jealousy could make your partner look upon said rival as someone who potentially has more to offer than you do. Otherwise, why would you be fretting? Conversely, if you hadn't reacted jealously, he or she might never have even considered this person in a romantic light. Moreover, refraining from jealous overreactions displays confidence in your own desirability--a trait that makes you more irresistible! Never forget: A jealous reaction can diminish your attraction.

9. "Because I've always done it this, that's why!" Closed-mindedness is yet another good way to push a partner away. It's natural for us to set up routines and establish daily rhythms, and, in general, these help us to be functional and more productive. However, if we become too set in our ways, we close off potentially new and exciting avenues in life. This is especially true when it comes to a relationship, which can be viewed as two life paths that intersect and veer off in a common direction. Be open to your partner's thoughts and ideas. Don't be afraid to offer a critique, but don't dismiss suggestions out of hand simply because they entail something new or even radically different. It comes down to this: When you close your mind, you leave opportunities behind!

10. "What do you mean you don't believe in psychic powers?!" Number 9 outlines the danger of being closed-minded. But what if your partner is the one who is unwilling to be open-minded? Countless people I've helped over the years have complained of partners who are skeptical, or outright hostile, when it comes to seeking help from a psychic or witch. This is despite being the direct beneficiaries of my work! If your partner is dismissive or skeptical of your reaching out to a spiritual intuitive, don't worry--most partners come around to the effectiveness of such assistance once they see the positive effect it has on you and your relationship. In the meantime, don't hold your partner's skeptical against them. I recommend calmly explaining that relationship guidance from a gifted and trained professional psychic has proven benefits, but that it's okay to withhold judgement. The results will follow, and your partner will sheepishly concede that the doubts were unwarranted. I've seen it a thousand times! Furthermore, your partner will appreciate you more for proactively taking steps to strengthen the bond between you. Be patient with your partner as this lesson is learned so as not to inadvertently inhibit the benefits of the psychic insights as they are taking hold. There will inevitably be bumps in the relationship road, but when they occur, adhere to my final aphorism: When your relationship experiences a glitch, patiently consult with a witch!

The 10 points above are intended to serve as self-assessment tool. Consider it a holiday gift from me to you. After self-assessing, call me at 424-302-8035 for your consultation. I'll put my skills to work on your behalf and begin providing you with the highly specific insights you need to make your relationship stronger than ever!